It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
@neil what an interesting way to dismantle free speech! Think about how your idea can be weaponized before you post it.
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Every time I mention this, at least one man pops up to say that they would not want to follow a woman who chooses to restrict replies.
So here, I have covered it in advance
@neil First off, those dudes can fuck all the way off. The real problem is that someone will run an alternate version of the server, a la glitch or whatever, that ignores such metadata/flags. There are so many things we give up on my being decentralized... I just don't know man. I wish we could provide an environment where people felt free to express themselves. Sadly the best response to bad-actors might be mob-drown-outs? I wish I was smart enough to give constructive input here.
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
@neil
It makes me sad in general in any context when people express that they feel unsafe doing what they want to do or expressing themself in any given environment. Yes I hear that 1000 times as often from women as from men because society really is way more unsafe for people that present as female. I feel like Mastodon and Fediverse is an online space where more people feel safe than in general online, so lets not self flagellate about it. But could we do better? Could we make more people feel more safe? 100% yes of course we could. Let's work on that -
@neil First off, those dudes can fuck all the way off. The real problem is that someone will run an alternate version of the server, a la glitch or whatever, that ignores such metadata/flags. There are so many things we give up on my being decentralized... I just don't know man. I wish we could provide an environment where people felt free to express themselves. Sadly the best response to bad-actors might be mob-drown-outs? I wish I was smart enough to give constructive input here.
A server could easily drop any replies that ignore reply controls even if modified owns allow it. In which case it would be "anyone running a server with these modifications can see unauthorized replies to people with reply controls on but to everyone else (including the original poster) they don't exist
That makes them the equivalent of an email chain with a link to the post in it rather than replies
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@seabass @neil Reply controls would require changing how replies work to make them all go via the original poster's server. Currently they go directly to mentioned users (and the replier's followers), and the original poster's server can't do anything about that except reject them locally. This would also allow for fixing follower-only replies (so they go to the original poster's followers rather than to the replier's followers, which results in people seeing random fragments of conversations if they follow only some parties) and making replies federate to all users who see the original post without the need to backfill via non-standard c2s protocols (like fedifetcher does), but good luck getting everyone to implement that.
As for how Mastodon's quote controls work: they kind-of don't. I'm on Akkoma, which has had quote posts long before Mastodon and does not implement Mastodon's quote controls. Nothing prevents me (and nothing can prevent me) from quoting a quote-restricted Mastodon post, although it will (probably, I haven't tested) only appear as an ordinary post with a link to the quoted post on Mastodon, and I think also won't show up under the original post on Mastodon servers (but will on other Akkoma servers and every implementation that doesn't implement Mastodon's quote controls).@seabass@social.seabass.systems @neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk I think reply controls of the kind that's actually implementable without changing how every implementation does replies (that is, just reject them locally) are already partially possible on Pleroma/Akkoma using MRF (the Message Rewrite Facility). Rejecting replies to a certain user is certainly possible with an MRF filter, the only thing missing is a way for the user to specify this per-post.
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A server could easily drop any replies that ignore reply controls even if modified owns allow it. In which case it would be "anyone running a server with these modifications can see unauthorized replies to people with reply controls on but to everyone else (including the original poster) they don't exist
That makes them the equivalent of an email chain with a link to the post in it rather than replies
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
@neil This is one of those cases where it's not really about gender, it's about kyrirarchy, because (for example) people of colour say the same things here.
We need to find ways to make fedi safe for everyone -- across every axis of social power.
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
@neil fortunately I've not had crazy experiences but I only interact with a very narrow number of people. Also I block enthusiastically. I sometimes will see a random post by a very mean person and block proactively before they find me. It also helps that I am on a well moderated server
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@neil Then the actual face to face world
@electricfusionQ no, but face to face you can catch these hands. @neil
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@gotofritz @HunterZ @neil Obviously the person who put them on the blocklist thinks they deserve to be there or they wouldn't've done it. Whether the person blocked thinks they deserve it... I don't see where that's relevant to whether other people want to block that person. All of the people I want to block universally HATE being blocked and think nobody should be able to block them, and I don't see where their opinion should matter to me at all.
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@munkisquisher @neil AI? GenAI? It is to laugh. It's not nearly reliable enough to be used without human supervision, and never will be given it's basis. That makes it useless for pre-emptive blocking. Not to mention the load it'd place on the instances having to analyze every post once for each user who'd see it.
The goal is to allow individual users to benefit from other people's evaluations, not to make them do their own.
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@gotofritz @HunterZ @neil Obviously the person who put them on the blocklist thinks they deserve to be there or they wouldn't've done it. Whether the person blocked thinks they deserve it... I don't see where that's relevant to whether other people want to block that person. All of the people I want to block universally HATE being blocked and think nobody should be able to block them, and I don't see where their opinion should matter to me at all.
@gotofritz @HunterZ @neil Oh, and as for how to get off the list once you're on it?
1. Change your behavior so people don't think you deserve to be blocked.
2. Demonstrate that change over time.
3. Politely ask/beg people to reconsider, and hope they forgive you.
4. Think about how you're coming across to other people, and proactively _not_ act in ways that'll make people want to block you in the first place. Remember, you aren't owed forgiveness.
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
@neil Mysogeny is a real issue. Anyone can hide behind an interface and abuse others. Basically cowards.
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
featured in this thread: People discussing technical solutions to a social and cultural problem
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@neil This is one of those cases where it's not really about gender, it's about kyrirarchy, because (for example) people of colour say the same things here.
We need to find ways to make fedi safe for everyone -- across every axis of social power.
@ShaulaEvans Absolutely!
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
@neil it is the most upvoted issue on mastodon:
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I suspect that the online translation I used is poor, as it makes it sound like you are trivialising the impact of these replies on women, and suggesting that the onus is on them (moving instance, or engaging differently) to solve the problem.
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I suspect that the online translation I used is poor, as it makes it sound like you are trivialising the impact of these replies on women, and suggesting that the onus is on them (moving instance, or engaging differently) to solve the problem.
Ich bin Frau und das schon über 70 Jahren.
Ich habe meine eigenen Erfahrungen, nicht nur positive.
Ich versuche stets die Opferrolle zu vermeiden und selbst aktiv zu sein.
Das "Problem" bezog sich spontan nur auf die technische Frage, wie kann ich dafür sorgen, dass nur Follower antworten (können). -
Ich bin Frau und das schon über 70 Jahren.
Ich habe meine eigenen Erfahrungen, nicht nur positive.
Ich versuche stets die Opferrolle zu vermeiden und selbst aktiv zu sein.
Das "Problem" bezog sich spontan nur auf die technische Frage, wie kann ich dafür sorgen, dass nur Follower antworten (können).To my mind, it is more than "only followers", but rather then ability to say "no replies" at all.
