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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

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  • neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.ukN neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk

    @electricfusionQ

    RL?

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    #30

    @neil real life

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    • electricfusionq@muenchen.socialE electricfusionq@muenchen.social

      @neil real life

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      #31

      @electricfusionQ

      This is real life?

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      • neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.ukN neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk

        @electricfusionQ

        This is real life?

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        #32

        @neil Then the actual face to face world

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        • electricfusionq@muenchen.socialE electricfusionq@muenchen.social

          @neil Then the actual face to face world

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          #33

          @electricfusionQ

          Sorry, I think that I am misunderstanding.

          Yes, women (and others) get harassed face to face too, and yes, absolutely, men should stop doing that. In the absence of that, we should put safety measures in place.

          We have the ability to do different things in different contexts.

          If that is what you are saying, then I agree completely.

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          • neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.ukN neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk

            It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

            Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

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            #34

            @neil

            Wo ist das Problem, dann muss man halt seinen Beitrag mit der Einstellung "Only Follower" veröffentlichen!
            Ist halt schade um die Möglichkeit seine Gedanken in größerer Runde auszutauschen und auf neue interessante Menschen zu treffen!
            Vielleicht hilft dann auch der Umzug auf eine andere, kleinere (?) Instanz.
            Oft lohnt sich auch die Kommunikation auf die Metaebene zu heben, konnte so schon manches Missverständnis klären!

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            • neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.ukN neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk

              It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

              Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

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              #35

              @neil new here, what’s a “fedi”? I keep seeing this word but I can’t understand what it is

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              • neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.ukN neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk

                It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

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                #36

                @neil 💯

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                • neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.ukN neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk

                  It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                  Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

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                  #37

                  @neil @steter Agree that reply controls and “hide reply” in particular where it make reply invisible but commenter never knows - is crucial to build.

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                  • vsrt@wehavecookies.socialV vsrt@wehavecookies.social

                    @neil new here, what’s a “fedi”? I keep seeing this word but I can’t understand what it is

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                    #38

                    @VSRT

                    Welcome!

                    The term "fediverse" is just slang for the network(s) of federated services/servers, of which your server (wehavecookies.social) is one.

                    A "fedi" user, here, is someone who uses one or more fediverse services.

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                    • u_urban@social.tchncs.deU u_urban@social.tchncs.de

                      @neil

                      Wo ist das Problem, dann muss man halt seinen Beitrag mit der Einstellung "Only Follower" veröffentlichen!
                      Ist halt schade um die Möglichkeit seine Gedanken in größerer Runde auszutauschen und auf neue interessante Menschen zu treffen!
                      Vielleicht hilft dann auch der Umzug auf eine andere, kleinere (?) Instanz.
                      Oft lohnt sich auch die Kommunikation auf die Metaebene zu heben, konnte so schon manches Missverständnis klären!

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                      #39

                      @u_urban

                      I suspect that the online translation I used is poor, as it makes it sound like you are trivialising the impact of these replies on women, and suggesting that the onus is on them (moving instance, or engaging differently) to solve the problem.

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                      • neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.ukN neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk

                        @tknarr It's all good 🙂

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                        #40

                        @neil I'm still looking at what's involved in creating subscribeable blocklists. The basic hook into the block functionality on the server is obvious enough, but the list itself involves learning everything about the ActivityPub protocol and the federation and syndication models. Making it useful involves having categorization and user ratings while preventing abuse of them too. Straightforward in concept, terminally hirsute in implementation.

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                        • neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.ukN neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk

                          @VSRT

                          Welcome!

                          The term "fediverse" is just slang for the network(s) of federated services/servers, of which your server (wehavecookies.social) is one.

                          A "fedi" user, here, is someone who uses one or more fediverse services.

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                          #41

                          @neil oh I understand now, thanks for taking the time to explain it to me :))

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                          • alex@social.alexhyett.comA alex@social.alexhyett.com

                            @neil that would be perfect. An “only allow replies from people you follow” option would help so much.

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                            #42

                            @alex @neil Yes and no. If someone has fears, then yes. But the way I find new people to follow is when they interact with my posts. Having an option like that turned on would prevent me from doing that.

                            So I guess my answer really is YES, as long as it's an OPTION.

                            I have no qualms about blocking assholes, and I really don't care what they say behind my back. Unlike them, I have a life and it isn't centered on social media.🤷🏼‍♀️

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                            • neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.ukN neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk

                              It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                              Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                              shewolfnm@theforkiverse.comS This user is from outside of this forum
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                              #43

                              @neil
                              I've already been called the N word and I've only been here a week or so. It's surprising how nasty people get when online. 😕

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                              • mlanger@mastodon.worldM mlanger@mastodon.world

                                @alex @neil Yes and no. If someone has fears, then yes. But the way I find new people to follow is when they interact with my posts. Having an option like that turned on would prevent me from doing that.

                                So I guess my answer really is YES, as long as it's an OPTION.

                                I have no qualms about blocking assholes, and I really don't care what they say behind my back. Unlike them, I have a life and it isn't centered on social media.🤷🏼‍♀️

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                                #44

                                @mlanger @alex

                                > YES, as long as it's an OPTION.

                                Indeed, I don't think I've seen anyone suggesting that it should be mandatory!

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                                • shewolfnm@theforkiverse.comS shewolfnm@theforkiverse.com

                                  @neil
                                  I've already been called the N word and I've only been here a week or so. It's surprising how nasty people get when online. 😕

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                                  #45

                                  @Shewolfnm I'm so sorry - that is just awful 😞

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                                  • neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.ukN neil@mastodon.neilzone.co.uk

                                    @evdelen As you say, that is post visibility, not reply control.

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                                    #46

                                    @neil @evdelen Yeah, but if they can't see it, they can't reply to it. I think it's a viable option for posts you don't want just anyone to see and reply to. I use it occasionally when I'm posting stuff of a more personal nature that isn't exactly private.

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                                    • tknarr@mstdn.socialT tknarr@mstdn.social

                                      @neil I'm still looking at what's involved in creating subscribeable blocklists. The basic hook into the block functionality on the server is obvious enough, but the list itself involves learning everything about the ActivityPub protocol and the federation and syndication models. Making it useful involves having categorization and user ratings while preventing abuse of them too. Straightforward in concept, terminally hirsute in implementation.

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                                      #47

                                      @tknarr @neil this idea is not new to the fediverse. Multiple major efforts have occurred and then faded away after being hijacked for personal vendettas.

                                      The problem is it's a social issue more than a technological one.

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                                      • mlanger@mastodon.worldM mlanger@mastodon.world

                                        @neil @evdelen Yeah, but if they can't see it, they can't reply to it. I think it's a viable option for posts you don't want just anyone to see and reply to. I use it occasionally when I'm posting stuff of a more personal nature that isn't exactly private.

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                                        #48

                                        @mlanger @evdelen

                                        Great!

                                        It is certainly *a* control here.

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                                        • hunterz@mastodon.sdf.orgH hunterz@mastodon.sdf.org

                                          @tknarr @neil this idea is not new to the fediverse. Multiple major efforts have occurred and then faded away after being hijacked for personal vendettas.

                                          The problem is it's a social issue more than a technological one.

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                                          #49

                                          @HunterZ @neil Subscribeable blocklists are a technical issue, and I can state a number of good use cases for them.

                                          Abuse of a blocklist by it's creator (misleading subscribers about criteria, doing a bait-and-switch after getting a subscriber base) is completely separate, and yes _that's_ a social issue. Hence my concern for categorization and ratings, and ways to prevent those from being abused to give a list a false reputation.

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