It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

@tknarr @HunterZ @neil

How do you know whether everyone in a blocklist deserves to be there, how do you get removed if someone puts you there for trivial reasons, etc

@tknarr @neil We're in the days of being able to use LLM's to summarize and 'vibes check' a users last few dozen posts. No reason to rely on someone else's blocklist. Train your own based on topics you don't want to hear about or similarity to other posts you've flagged.

@gotofritz @HunterZ @neil Obviously the person who put them on the blocklist thinks they deserve to be there or they wouldn't've done it. Whether the person blocked thinks they deserve it... I don't see where that's relevant to whether other people want to block that person. All of the people I want to block universally HATE being blocked and think nobody should be able to block them, and I don't see where their opinion should matter to me at all.

@mlanger @alex

> YES, as long as it's an OPTION.

Indeed, I don't think I've seen anyone suggesting that it should be mandatory!

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

@neil This is one of those cases where it's not really about gender, it's about kyrirarchy, because (for example) people of colour say the same things here.

We need to find ways to make fedi safe for everyone -- across every axis of social power.

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

@u_urban

I suspect that the online translation I used is poor, as it makes it sound like you are trivialising the impact of these replies on women, and suggesting that the onus is on them (moving instance, or engaging differently) to solve the problem.

@u_urban

I suspect that the online translation I used is poor, as it makes it sound like you are trivialising the impact of these replies on women, and suggesting that the onus is on them (moving instance, or engaging differently) to solve the problem.

@neil

Ich bin Frau und das schon über 70 Jahren.
Ich habe meine eigenen Erfahrungen, nicht nur positive.
Ich versuche stets die Opferrolle zu vermeiden und selbst aktiv zu sein.
Das "Problem" bezog sich spontan nur auf die technische Frage, wie kann ich dafür sorgen, dass nur Follower antworten (können).