This is your regular reminder that passing is a cursed concept. Being unnoticeable won't make you socially acceptable. It'll just mean that they don't know that they hate you.Also, It's unattainable or undesired for many and shouldn't be expected of anyone. The moment we make passing a goal for our community or a benchmark for transness, we've lost. We're not free until all of us are free.But also, for those who can/do, it can be useful and provide some level of safety. We shouldn't begrudge anyone that. All of us deserve to be able to live our lives in peace. If being mostly unnoticed is how you accomplish that, who am I to say differently?