@Tattie Yup. It's way easier to project than to actually deal with the reality of the violence present in the world.

The world is a messy place. It doesn't make sense. Violence is everywhere and often comes from unexpected places. It's way easier to come up with dumb rules about how these people are dangerous and those are safe than it is to deal with that reality. Trans people are often examples of just how bullshit those rules are and they hate us for it.

@Tattie The antifeminism isn't new. "Boys will be boys" has been around for a long time. But I think it has less to do with trans people than it does to do with women trying to process the trauma of what men have done to them and men trying to justify it.

But, yeah, the transphobia doesn't help matters.

This is your regular reminder that passing is a cursed concept. Being unnoticeable won't make you socially acceptable. It'll just mean that they don't know that they hate you.

Also, It's unattainable or undesired for many and shouldn't be expected of anyone. The moment we make passing a goal for our community or a benchmark for transness, we've lost. We're not free until all of us are free.

But also, for those who can/do, it can be useful and provide some level of safety. We shouldn't begrudge anyone that. All of us deserve to be able to live our lives in peace. If being mostly unnoticed is how you accomplish that, who am I to say differently?