Why do we have such a gender imbalance at #fosdem & in tech in general?
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Why do we have such a gender imbalance at #fosdem & in tech in general?
A real conversation.
Marty: Maria, what do you think about ABC?
Peter: I don't want to speak for Maria, but... (keeps talking for a few minutes).
Anna: Thank you for sharing your perspective, Peter, but I would love to hear Maria's perspective.If you observe someone dominating a discussion and answering questions that aren't directed at them, please be an ally and moderate the conversation in a inclusive way🧡
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Why do we have such a gender imbalance at #fosdem & in tech in general?
A real conversation.
Marty: Maria, what do you think about ABC?
Peter: I don't want to speak for Maria, but... (keeps talking for a few minutes).
Anna: Thank you for sharing your perspective, Peter, but I would love to hear Maria's perspective.If you observe someone dominating a discussion and answering questions that aren't directed at them, please be an ally and moderate the conversation in a inclusive way🧡
#dei #deib...and it's not only about the gender, but inclusiveness within conversations in general.
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Why do we have such a gender imbalance at #fosdem & in tech in general?
A real conversation.
Marty: Maria, what do you think about ABC?
Peter: I don't want to speak for Maria, but... (keeps talking for a few minutes).
Anna: Thank you for sharing your perspective, Peter, but I would love to hear Maria's perspective.If you observe someone dominating a discussion and answering questions that aren't directed at them, please be an ally and moderate the conversation in a inclusive way🧡
#dei #deib@RosannaSibora amen! 🪧
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Why do we have such a gender imbalance at #fosdem & in tech in general?
A real conversation.
Marty: Maria, what do you think about ABC?
Peter: I don't want to speak for Maria, but... (keeps talking for a few minutes).
Anna: Thank you for sharing your perspective, Peter, but I would love to hear Maria's perspective.If you observe someone dominating a discussion and answering questions that aren't directed at them, please be an ally and moderate the conversation in a inclusive way🧡
#dei #deibI think this pattern is really deeply ingrained in our culture, unfortunately. Female co-workers are often reluctant to speak up, even when I know they are probably the most competent to cover the topic we are discussing.
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I think this pattern is really deeply ingrained in our culture, unfortunately. Female co-workers are often reluctant to speak up, even when I know they are probably the most competent to cover the topic we are discussing.
@airwhale I agree that it's often (unfortunately) a part of culture, upbringing etc. However, I don't know who is the most competent person in the room. I would like to find out. When someone is dominating the discussion it's barely possible.
And it's not even that much about finding the most competent person in the room, but rather about gathering diverse perspectives, building up on other people's ideas and co-creating.
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Why do we have such a gender imbalance at #fosdem & in tech in general?
A real conversation.
Marty: Maria, what do you think about ABC?
Peter: I don't want to speak for Maria, but... (keeps talking for a few minutes).
Anna: Thank you for sharing your perspective, Peter, but I would love to hear Maria's perspective.If you observe someone dominating a discussion and answering questions that aren't directed at them, please be an ally and moderate the conversation in a inclusive way🧡
#dei #deib@RosannaSibora
Thanks for sharing such a valuable skill. What if that person dominating is your leader? -
@airwhale I agree that it's often (unfortunately) a part of culture, upbringing etc. However, I don't know who is the most competent person in the room. I would like to find out. When someone is dominating the discussion it's barely possible.
And it's not even that much about finding the most competent person in the room, but rather about gathering diverse perspectives, building up on other people's ideas and co-creating.
Yes, agreed - you put it better than I managed
All team members have information, skills, experiences or ideas that would be valuable to share and gather. I want all voices to be heard and encourage a collaborative culture, not a competetive one.
It's way harder than I would like.
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...and it's not only about the gender, but inclusiveness within conversations in general.
@RosannaSibora yeah, I'm also experiencing that quite often in my bubble. Luckily not from narcissists, but like neurodivergent / autistic people. People who don't mean to be rude but who genuinely have a hard time telling if other people would like to talk, too, or how others feel about the conversation. They need direct feedback.
And the feedback part is still difficult for me then as I have trouble interrupting people, I have a feeling of being rude, disagreeable if interrupting others.
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@RosannaSibora yeah, I'm also experiencing that quite often in my bubble. Luckily not from narcissists, but like neurodivergent / autistic people. People who don't mean to be rude but who genuinely have a hard time telling if other people would like to talk, too, or how others feel about the conversation. They need direct feedback.
And the feedback part is still difficult for me then as I have trouble interrupting people, I have a feeling of being rude, disagreeable if interrupting others.
@RosannaSibora but when I overcome this I think those friends are act. appreciating it, they don't take that badly and are relieved if you tell them clearly, directly, calmly: "I would also like to make a point, can you give me some seconds?" At least the people I know wld.
For me I think maybe the church childhood part might play into my issue of interrupting others. I'm wondering if many woman might hv similar issues bc. society often (wrongly) saying woman in particular wld hv to be quiet?
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@RosannaSibora but when I overcome this I think those friends are act. appreciating it, they don't take that badly and are relieved if you tell them clearly, directly, calmly: "I would also like to make a point, can you give me some seconds?" At least the people I know wld.
For me I think maybe the church childhood part might play into my issue of interrupting others. I'm wondering if many woman might hv similar issues bc. society often (wrongly) saying woman in particular wld hv to be quiet?
@RosannaSibora just some thoughts :-). I'd be curious if you were thinking about like autistic or narcissistic people in particular.
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