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Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

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  • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

    Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

    Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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    #83
    @vkc
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    • alex02@elonsucks.orgA alex02@elonsucks.org

      @vkc no it is not and quite frankly your response is quite obnoxious. If we can't talk about problems collectively on this shithole platform and only talk about one thing at a time than it becomes loose islands among the rest of the sewage, but fine whatever. Thank you for proving my point about how hostile this place is becoming with all you morons whining, but yet do this type of shit. Anyways, enjoy the block. I generally don't care.

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      #84

      @alex02 @vkc what are you even on about 😭

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      • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

        Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

        Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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        #85

        @vkc Goddammit. Men suck (as a man).

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        • moondog548@nerdculture.deM moondog548@nerdculture.de

          @Aprazeth
          This is a huge opportunity. We need to learn *and teach eachother* how to call our brothers in when they're out of line.

          We need to know what to do and make it a reflex!
          @alice @vkc

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          #86

          @moondog548 @alice @vkc

          There are differing styles of communication and personalities to take into account, so don't necessarily use these as-is. Adapt to your situation/style/personality

          Some examples to get started (for the edgy remark retorts)

          - Not cool dude
          - that's fucked up
          - ask them to explain what they meant, make them explain their "edgy" stuff

          But above all, be the better example. Support women, POC, LGBTQ, and *believe them* when they call out stuff

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          • aprazeth@mstdn.socialA aprazeth@mstdn.social

            @moondog548 @alice @vkc

            There are differing styles of communication and personalities to take into account, so don't necessarily use these as-is. Adapt to your situation/style/personality

            Some examples to get started (for the edgy remark retorts)

            - Not cool dude
            - that's fucked up
            - ask them to explain what they meant, make them explain their "edgy" stuff

            But above all, be the better example. Support women, POC, LGBTQ, and *believe them* when they call out stuff

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            #87

            @moondog548 @alice @vkc

            And keep in mind: some men will just be monsters. No amount of social pressure or calling out will work on them as they keep making those remarks

            In those instances - ostracize them from your life, and warn others. Do not accept them as "quirky but harmless". Because it will escalate, and will draw in others. That will prompt "but he says it, and it's accepted so I should be able to say it as well"

            > Silence now is implied endorsement later.

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            • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

              Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

              Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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              #88

              @vkc I’m very sorry to hear this. Just this morning I watched your videos on installing Linux on Chromebooks and comparing standard Mint to Debian Mint (loved the visual REM reference, btw). And a few days ago your video about installing Linux on M1 Macs inspired me to do just that.

              You’re doing great work, and I really appreciate you being on PeerTube. Thanks much!

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              • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

                Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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                #89

                @vkc had some best way not engage ignore block report.

                if you engage, you already lost.

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                • mloxton@med-mastodon.comM mloxton@med-mastodon.com

                  @RegGuy
                  At risk of flooding out Veronica's voice here (a real risk and also sexism), yeah, the overt "hey you b*tch" stuff is easy to spot.
                  More difficult is the coded stuff. Using innocent words to highlight "feminine" vs "masculine" aspects
                  Even more difficult is noticing undue focus, undue exclusion, and seemingly automatic assumptions that a woman should be more caring or gentle, or be the default peacemaker, etc.

                  It takes a lot of work, persistence, and attention

                  @bob @vkc

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                  #90

                  @mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

                  I do a lot of coding for the MPAQ network. Sitting here working on other things and wondering if i could build a database/site to collect names@instances that someone sends...

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                  • bob@beamship.mpaq.orgB bob@beamship.mpaq.org

                    @mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

                    I do a lot of coding for the MPAQ network. Sitting here working on other things and wondering if i could build a database/site to collect names@instances that someone sends...

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                    #91

                    @bob
                    There is something like that afaik
                    Not sure if it wound up as an app, but women were circulating a blocklist of known gremlins

                    @RegGuy @vkc

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                    • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

                      Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                      Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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                      #92

                      @vkc

                      I just can send you hugs, and apple pies.

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                      • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

                        Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                        Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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                        #93

                        @vkc Real men understand what consent means. Real men don't treat women like garbage. Real men fight that shit.

                        Be a real man, not garbage who make women uncomfortable to be who they are.

                        #FightThatShit

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                        • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

                          Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                          Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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                          #94

                          @vkc for anyone openly harassing someone on the Fediverse please leave and never come back.

                          Sorry to hear what you are dealing with

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                          • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

                            Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                            Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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                            #95

                            @vkc I’m sorry the grubs are still around 😞

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                            • alex02@elonsucks.orgA alex02@elonsucks.org

                              @vkc no it is not and quite frankly your response is quite obnoxious. If we can't talk about problems collectively on this shithole platform and only talk about one thing at a time than it becomes loose islands among the rest of the sewage, but fine whatever. Thank you for proving my point about how hostile this place is becoming with all you morons whining, but yet do this type of shit. Anyways, enjoy the block. I generally don't care.

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                              #96

                              @alex02 @vkc go to Twitter go to Bluesky. She’s not asking for argument.

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                              • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

                                Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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                                #97

                                @vkc I’m sorry for what you went through. Hope you’re doing ok.

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                                • mloxton@med-mastodon.comM mloxton@med-mastodon.com

                                  @bob
                                  There is something like that afaik
                                  Not sure if it wound up as an app, but women were circulating a blocklist of known gremlins

                                  @RegGuy @vkc

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                                  #98

                                  @mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

                                  Been searching but no luck finding a site that would let someone "report a bad user"...

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                                  • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

                                    Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                    Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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                                    #99

                                    @vkc
                                    Gods dang it, fedi. Be better.

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                                    • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

                                      Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                      Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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                                      #100

                                      @vkc okay, how to take responsibility for fedi culture. Hmm. Sure can look for it and push back, if I happen to see it at the right time, but that seems minimal.
                                      I wonder if anyone has tried setting up a honeypot for sexual harassment?

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                                      • vkc@linuxmom.netV vkc@linuxmom.net

                                        Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                        Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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                                        #101

                                        @vkc

                                        Sorry this happen to you. There are fighters out there but it's a tough fight and big Fediverse.

                                        Fedi needs a hashtag that is a call to action to fight harassment and bigotry. Blocking or muting isn't enough. There should be a way to call in the Calvary to defend those being attacked.

                                        Simply reply with #StompTheBully (or something) and the good guys show up to shut things down. Summon the guard dogs and we'll show up. As 6'5" father of a mess of daughters nothing makes me happier when my crew needs me for some "Big Dog Energy".

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                                        • moondog548@nerdculture.deM moondog548@nerdculture.de

                                          @haltroy
                                          And just like any disease we'll keep fighting it.
                                          @Orb2069 @vkc

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                                          #102

                                          @moondog548
                                          This is the way.

                                          @haltroy @vkc

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