It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

@tony Yes, indeed.

@neil
I believe there is a plan to add something like followers only, but one problem is that servers that are not upgraded to a version that supports that flag wouldn't honour it.

Not that it's a reason not to do it, but it'll take a while before it's effective.

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

Every time I mention this, at least one man pops up to say that they would not want to follow a woman who chooses to restrict replies.

So here, I have covered it in advance

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

@neil

I just wanted to draw your attention to some some ways to manage the visibility of a post. Could your outline additional controls which could be established?

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

@neil
https://socialhub.activitypub.rocks/t/fep-5624-per-object-reply-control-policies/2723

Bit technical, but it seems good people are on it.

@neil

There is a word filter system, which is probably not the level of control you are proposing, but it is a real-time start.

I have the classic insults blocked, but, for cause, sadly.

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

@neil In account settings there's a followers-only option for reply privacy. That's probably what you want.

@tknarr

Hmm... What setting are you thinking of here, as it doesn't ring a bell?

It doesn't solve the problem completely, but being able to restrict replies to people I follow would be a great start.

@neil
I believe there is a plan to add something like followers only, but one problem is that servers that are not upgraded to a version that supports that flag wouldn't honour it.

Not that it's a reason not to do it, but it'll take a while before it's effective.

@tknarr

Ah, reply privacy, being the visibility level attached to a reply I make.

No, that is something completely different to controlling what replies I allow to my toots.

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

@neil I've had women say they were leaving things as niche as language exchange apps because of appalling comments. My wife joined a pen-pal, slow delivery, letter-like service and had to leave because of what she got.

I honestly don't know what the fuck is wrong with a lot of men.

@neil Huh. I thought there was a separate one for replies to your post, not your replies. Sorry, apparently I was wrong.

I also don't see anything for limiting visibiility to only those you follow, only to followers. There's an option whether or not to auto-approve followers, you can turn that off to give you control over who can follow you. That seems to be as far as it goes.

Going to add my voice to the requests for more reply privacy options.

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.