It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
@neil In account settings there's a followers-only option for reply privacy. That's probably what you want.
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@neil In account settings there's a followers-only option for reply privacy. That's probably what you want.
Hmm... What setting are you thinking of here, as it doesn't ring a bell?
It doesn't solve the problem completely, but being able to restrict replies to people I follow would be a great start.
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Hmm... What setting are you thinking of here, as it doesn't ring a bell?
It doesn't solve the problem completely, but being able to restrict replies to people I follow would be a great start.
Ah, reply privacy, being the visibility level attached to a reply I make.
No, that is something completely different to controlling what replies I allow to my toots.
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@neil
I believe there is a plan to add something like followers only, but one problem is that servers that are not upgraded to a version that supports that flag wouldn't honour it.Not that it's a reason not to do it, but it'll take a while before it's effective.
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Ah, reply privacy, being the visibility level attached to a reply I make.
No, that is something completely different to controlling what replies I allow to my toots.
@neil Huh. I thought there was a separate one for replies to your post, not your replies. Sorry, apparently I was wrong.
I also don't see anything for limiting visibiility to only those you follow, only to followers. There's an option whether or not to auto-approve followers, you can turn that off to give you control over who can follow you. That seems to be as far as it goes.
Going to add my voice to the requests for more reply privacy options.
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
@neil I've had women say they were leaving things as niche as language exchange apps because of appalling comments. My wife joined a pen-pal, slow delivery, letter-like service and had to leave because of what she got.
I honestly don't know what the fuck is wrong with a lot of men.
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@neil I've had women say they were leaving things as niche as language exchange apps because of appalling comments. My wife joined a pen-pal, slow delivery, letter-like service and had to leave because of what she got.
I honestly don't know what the fuck is wrong with a lot of men.
@curiousbadger Indeed

And this is a (predominantly) men thing, not a tech thing.
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@neil Huh. I thought there was a separate one for replies to your post, not your replies. Sorry, apparently I was wrong.
I also don't see anything for limiting visibiility to only those you follow, only to followers. There's an option whether or not to auto-approve followers, you can turn that off to give you control over who can follow you. That seems to be as far as it goes.
Going to add my voice to the requests for more reply privacy options.
@tknarr It's all good

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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
@neil Can you in RL control who`s replying to words you said?
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@neil Can you in RL control who`s replying to words you said?
RL?
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@neil real life
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@neil real life
This is real life?
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This is real life?
@neil Then the actual face to face world
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@neil Then the actual face to face world
Sorry, I think that I am misunderstanding.
Yes, women (and others) get harassed face to face too, and yes, absolutely, men should stop doing that. In the absence of that, we should put safety measures in place.
We have the ability to do different things in different contexts.
If that is what you are saying, then I agree completely.
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
Wo ist das Problem, dann muss man halt seinen Beitrag mit der Einstellung "Only Follower" veröffentlichen!
Ist halt schade um die Möglichkeit seine Gedanken in größerer Runde auszutauschen und auf neue interessante Menschen zu treffen!
Vielleicht hilft dann auch der Umzug auf eine andere, kleinere (?) Instanz.
Oft lohnt sich auch die Kommunikation auf die Metaebene zu heben, konnte so schon manches Missverständnis klären! -
It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
@neil new here, what’s a “fedi”? I keep seeing this word but I can’t understand what it is
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
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It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.
Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.
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@neil new here, what’s a “fedi”? I keep seeing this word but I can’t understand what it is
Welcome!
The term "fediverse" is just slang for the network(s) of federated services/servers, of which your server (wehavecookies.social) is one.
A "fedi" user, here, is someone who uses one or more fediverse services.
