@Colman @Tattie It turns out that people judge your gender compliance a lot by what clothes you wear, and coding what clothes you wore by what genitals you had was one of the few parts of gender that made sense to me as a little kid. That conviction started to fade by the time I was a teenager, but I still kept wearing the same clothes out of inertia and some understanding that it kept me safe.

@Colman @Tattie I'm pretty sure my parents thought of me as someone who hated gender a lot in theory but was only slightly gender non-conforming in practice. (In reality I was gender non-conforming about everything I cared about but turned out not to care about a lot of things.)

@Tattie Somehow two of my children (one of each gender) managed to pick up on the "boys are more aggressive than girls" by that age even though neither went to preschool. It's annoying, really.

@Colman @Tattie My parents raised me and my siblings pretty gender neutrally. I think there's a decent chance they would have done that even if I hadn't been nonbinary. I'm not even sure how much of that was because I was nonbinary. It doesn't help that nonbinary wasn't a concept any of us had then.