@amydiehl Of course (I'm sure you don't need me telling you this, but for the sake of others, it's worth also mentioning), the disparity is also because boys are socialized to shut down access to their own vulnerable emotions—fear, sadness, shame, guilt, and loneliness—and consequently, their ability to empathetically handle those emotions in others. If a vulnerable emotion cannot be ignored, repressed, rationalized away, or papered over with humour or rage, then it must be purged through excessive physical exertion or suppressed using alcohol or another substance. By cutting off every part of a boy's identity and experience that would have him seek and accept—hence learn to provide—emotional support, normatively socialized men are, through parental and pedagogic neglect and abuse, then through peer social aggression, and through the constant threat of humiliation and violence, emotionally stunted. Toxic masculinity is toxic to men too. For example, in popular culture, here's an example of (one of the least violent parts of) how that looks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGxW2toAvzc
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