Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.
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@eq "don't let the idiots get you" - do you see how that puts it on me?
I trust you mean well, but respectfully: no. The correct response is "men should fight back when they see this amongst themselves."
It isn't my responsibility to "not let them get me down." It's men who need to step up and fight this battle.
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Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.
Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.
@vkc ugh. I saw your earlier post and I'm so sorry 🫂
A *lot* of (mostly) guys need to learn the difference between appropriate, consensual flirting, and sexual harassment.
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@vkc
I'd report and block them... Dont censor yourself because of bad users. Just my opinion.
That is the power we have taken back by being on the Fediverse
@bob I always report and block. My problem is I need the collective *you* to report and block. And more.
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@vkc women will just stay on corporate social media even more because at least the user base there isn't so heavily skewed white male. I'd only been posting regularly for about a week here and got tone policed by some dude who said he was muting me for 30 days because I wasn't cheery enough. I extended his 30 days with a block. I've been in tech for over 25 years and I don't play.
@vkc @effariwhy the social media equivalent of some dickhead shouting CHEER UP LOVE from a passing car
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Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.
Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.
@vkc@linuxmom.net I hope you're fine. Harassers are such awful people. I hope they don't do that to you ever again, and that admins in our instances do their best to block them
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@vkc no it is not and quite frankly your response is quite obnoxious. If we can't talk about problems collectively on this shithole platform and only talk about one thing at a time than it becomes loose islands among the rest of the sewage, but fine whatever. Thank you for proving my point about how hostile this place is becoming with all you morons whining, but yet do this type of shit. Anyways, enjoy the block. I generally don't care.
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@vkc ugh. I saw your earlier post and I'm so sorry 🫂
A *lot* of (mostly) guys need to learn the difference between appropriate, consensual flirting, and sexual harassment.
@alice I think a lot of guys could also benefit from reading your "sucker punch" post about open registration and moderation. It def opened my eyes to how others are treated on here and elsewhere...
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I'd report and block them... Dont censor yourself because of bad users. Just my opinion.
That is the power we have taken back by being on the FediverseI think the "I" in that reply needs to be "you" and "me" for that to work.
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@vkc ugh. I saw your earlier post and I'm so sorry 🫂
A *lot* of (mostly) guys need to learn the difference between appropriate, consensual flirting, and sexual harassment.
@vkc sadly this is an issue that'll only start to get better when guys call other guys out on this behavior—every time they see it.
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@vkc ugh. I saw your earlier post and I'm so sorry 🫂
A *lot* of (mostly) guys need to learn the difference between appropriate, consensual flirting, and sexual harassment.
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@alice I think a lot of guys could also benefit from reading your "sucker punch" post about open registration and moderation. It def opened my eyes to how others are treated on here and elsewhere...
@semitones thanks for bringing that up 🩷 seems like a good time to boost that post again.
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@vkc ugh. I saw your earlier post and I'm so sorry 🫂
A *lot* of (mostly) guys need to learn the difference between appropriate, consensual flirting, and sexual harassment.
Absolutely. We, as men, *must* step up. Not only with standing against sexual harassment; but also the "edgy" comments
Its easy to spout as a man you'd stand against brutality. But yet we're often quiet when women, POC, are ignored, belittled, etc.
Creating a world where we all are safe from harm is stopping **all** forms of harassment, staring, belittling, catcalling. At. All. Times.
Men, we need to do better and hold each other accountable. For everyone, including ourselves
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@bob I always report and block. My problem is I need the collective *you* to report and block. And more.
@vkc
Im an admin over here and when i see it, I become a pitbull
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@byrnensorg I gotta believe we can do better than this, because the alternative is pretty fucking sad.
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@eq "don't let the idiots get you" - do you see how that puts it on me?
I trust you mean well, but respectfully: no. The correct response is "men should fight back when they see this amongst themselves."
It isn't my responsibility to "not let them get me down." It's men who need to step up and fight this battle.
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Absolutely. We, as men, *must* step up. Not only with standing against sexual harassment; but also the "edgy" comments
Its easy to spout as a man you'd stand against brutality. But yet we're often quiet when women, POC, are ignored, belittled, etc.
Creating a world where we all are safe from harm is stopping **all** forms of harassment, staring, belittling, catcalling. At. All. Times.
Men, we need to do better and hold each other accountable. For everyone, including ourselves
And that also means at places and times where it is just men around.
Especially then.
Silence then is implied endorsement later.
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@byrnensorg I gotta believe we can do better than this, because the alternative is pretty fucking sad.
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Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.
Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.
@vkc sorry you have to deal with that shit. Dudes need to be better. You shouldn't have to put up with the extra BS just because you're a woman on the internet.
If I see I will do my best to call it out. Too much happens in places I can't see which I think is one of the few flaws Masto has. Not sure how to fix that tho. But if I can help I will.
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@vkc men, do better.
Be a man in the internet. Talk about what you like. Cars, weather, trains, sports. See how the replies are on topic.
Be a woman on the internet. Talk about what you like.
Cars, weather, trains, sports. See the replies talking about your boobs. See the DMs filled with, "hey baby", and unsolicited dick pics.If you are a man, you won't see most - or any! - of what women experience daily online. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Your just in a safe little bubble of privilege. Own it, and do better.
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